SAFETY PLANNING
If you are in an abusive situation and unsure of how to navigate gaining safety, consider building a safety plan. A safety plan is a personalized, practical plan that includes ways to remain safe while in a relationship, planning to leave, or after you leave. Safety planning involves how to cope with emotions, tell friends and family about the abuse, take legal action and more. If you are in immediate danger, call 911 and if you need further assistance call the BrightHouse Crisis Line at 620-663-2522.
The Kansas VINE system is a service through which victims of crime can use the telephone or Internet to search for information regarding the custody status of their offender and to register to receive telephone and e-mail notification when the offender's custody status changes. The VINE toll-free number for the Kansas VINE system is (866) 574.8463. This service is provided to assist victims of crime who have a right to know about their offender's custody status.
Safety Planning Checklist:
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How long can I stay?Length of stay is determined by the specific needs of the individual. Those needing to move will stay in shelter longer than those with a residence to return to. If it is a matter of changing the locks on the house/rental unit and filing a Protection From Abuse order to have the abuser removed, the length of stay may be short. If housing needs to be located and applications for reduced rent filed, it will take longer. The average length of stay is 2-4 weeks. Overnight stays can be arranged as well. The major factor in determining the length of stay is the safety of the victim. Safety planning is discussed early and ongoing as we work together. Once safety issues have been addressed and/or eliminated, plans for exiting the shelter are made.
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How many times can I stay at the shelter?As many as necessary. Persons escape abusive situations on average 7-8 times before they permanently leave. It is part of the dynamics of an abusive relationship. Hopefully, each stay provides the person with more tools and options so that eventually a complete break of the abusive relationship occurs. However, if a person discloses the location of the shelter to anyone and is asked to leave, they will not be readmitted under any circumstances. Putting other residents of the shelter at risk is not tolerated. Threatening staff/other residents and any display of violence will also lead to immediate exit of the shelter and no future admissions.
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How many people live at the shelter?The shelter can house 17 women and children. On average 3-4 families are in the shelter at one time. Single women have a room to themselves. Families share a room. We do have resources to shelter men who are leaving abusive relationships.
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How many people work at the shelter?One shelter manager and five shelter relief staff are responsible for shelter coverage at all times.
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How safe is the shelter?The door to the shelter remains locked at all times. An alarm system is in place and alerts law enforcement if windows/doors are opened once the alarm is activated. The location of the shelter is confidential and no one other than staff or residents can enter the shelter unless prior approval/notification is received by the Shelter Manager. 100% of residents upon exit report feeling “safe or very safe” while at the shelter.
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What is the cost of staying at the shelter?This service is free.
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Am I free to come and go as I please at the shelter?This issue is addressed on an individual basis. A risk assessment is done on admission to the shelter. Those of higher risk and more safety issues are discouraged from leaving the shelter unescorted. The goal is to help each individual learn how to keep themselves safe while making their own independent choices.
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Is there a curfew?Residents are to be in the shelter by 10 p.m. Once the alarm is set, no one can enter or leave the shelter unless an emergency exists or prior approval from your victim advocate.
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How long can I stay?Length of stay is determined by the specific needs of the individual. Those needing to move will stay in shelter longer than those with a residence to return to. If it is a matter of changing the locks on the house/rental unit and filing a Protection From Abuse order to have the abuser removed, the length of stay may be short. If housing needs to be located and applications for reduced rent filed, it will take longer. The average length of stay is 2-4 weeks. Overnight stays can be arranged as well. The major factor in determining the length of stay is the safety of the victim. Safety planning is discussed early and ongoing as we work together. Once safety issues have been addressed and/or eliminated, plans for exiting the shelter are made.
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How many times can I stay at the shelter?As many as necessary. Persons escape abusive situations on average 7-8 times before they permanently leave. It is part of the dynamics of an abusive relationship. Hopefully, each stay provides the person with more tools and options so that eventually a complete break of the abusive relationship occurs. However, if a person discloses the location of the shelter to anyone and is asked to leave, they will not be readmitted under any circumstances. Putting other residents of the shelter at risk is not tolerated. Threatening staff/other residents and any display of violence will also lead to immediate exit of the shelter and no future admissions.
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How many people live at the shelter?The shelter can house 17 women and children. On average 3-4 families are in the shelter at one time. Single women have a room to themselves. Families share a room. We do have resources to shelter men who are leaving abusive relationships.
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How many people work at the shelter?One shelter manager and five shelter relief staff are responsible for shelter coverage at all times.
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How safe is the shelter?The door to the shelter remains locked at all times. An alarm system is in place and alerts law enforcement if windows/doors are opened once the alarm is activated. The location of the shelter is confidential and no one other than staff or residents can enter the shelter unless prior approval/notification is received by the Shelter Manager. 100% of residents upon exit report feeling “safe or very safe” while at the shelter.
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What is the cost of staying at the shelter?This service is free.
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Am I free to come and go as I please at the shelter?This issue is addressed on an individual basis. A risk assessment is done on admission to the shelter. Those of higher risk and more safety issues are discouraged from leaving the shelter unescorted. The goal is to help each individual learn how to keep themselves safe while making their own independent choices.
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Is there a curfew?Residents are to be in the shelter by 10 p.m. Once the alarm is set, no one can enter or leave the shelter unless an emergency exists or prior approval from your victim advocate.
A good safety plan will have all the vital information you need, be tailored to your unique situation, and will help walk you through different scenarios.
Although some of the things that you outline in your safety plan may seem obvious, it’s important to remember that in moments of crisis your brain doesn’t function the same way as when you are calm. When adrenaline is pumping through your veins it can be hard to think clearly or make logical decisions about your safety. Having a safety plan can help you think more clearly.
Checklist: What You Should Take When You Leave: